Don't Call me, "Friend Request" Me

So, I was at a wedding last night and surprisingly enough, there were quite a few single females. After a few drinks in, I became a dancing fool/chatty cathy with lots of half-ass conversing and overt flirtatiousness going on. When it came to the point of being asked; "Hey! We should hang out sometime!", what I found most fascinating was, rather than any female jotting down my number, I was asked to type my name into the Facebook app on their iPhone, so they can "Friend Request" me ....this happened with 3 different females over the course of the night, I should point out.

As I reflect on the evening and sip on my morning coffee, I'd like tell myself that I got 3 phone numbers last night .....but I didn't. I definitely know I got something. There were obvious vibes and attractions. But now I'm supposed to do what? Give them my number via Facebook? Why couldn't have I just done that last night, instead of typing my name into their smartphone? 

I'm starting to feel old and obsolete, even though my refusal to give-in to technology is completely by choice. I think I'm the only 20-something I know without a fancy ass phone. Even my mom has one. Call me old-fashioned or stubborn but I don't understand why the concept of dating has to become more complicated. I don't care which mutual friends we have or how many photos you're tagged in. If you do, then you should put your phone down and get some fresh air. 

Changing Your "Relationship Status" on Facebook: Pressure or Petty Narcissism?

When entering a new relationship, it seems like you're not "official" until you announce it on Facebook so everyone can virtually congratulate you. Getting dumped? When your fresh Ex decides to announce her singlehood, everyone gets to know about it! Not only do they find out, but they get to "LIKE" and comment on it. Talk about fun.....

Has Facebook become a gossip column for nobodies or a crucial step in relationship survival/dismissal? If you don't announce your new romance on your profile, some may consider your love illegitimate. Even your significant other could take offense to the fact you're not broadcasting your love all over the web. Does this add more pressure? Does this sound like petty narcissism? Does it have the potential to f*ck things up? Yes, yes, and yes.

How about getting dumped? After my last long-term relationship, it didn't truly hit me until she changed her status to "Single" the very next day. It was shocking to see how some of her friends were leaving comments of happiness and also seeing other guys waiting to pounce on her like fresh meat in the market. Of course, then I get the pleasure of receiving phone calls and text messages from friends, asking if "I'm okay", when I wasn't ready to tell anyone.

Even engagements are announced on Facebook and measuring your news is determined on how many of your friends "LIKE" it. Why are we letting Facebook become our reality? It used to be an escape from reality .....now reality just seems fake.

Interview - Jazz Singer, JB Baretsky Talks Music + Dating

We caught up with the talented and well-dressed JB Baretsky to ask him some questions about romance, old Hollywood, and his upcoming debut single; "One Nighter" which is more of an emotional track than it is about his physical endeavors .....and he's only 24. WTH?!

TMMP: What's your favorite place to take a date to?
JB: The best answer is where I don't take them on dates, like anywhere that involves competition. So bowling, pool, and mini golf are all out 'cause I'd get way too concentrated on beating my date. I also avoid loud places where conversations are impossible. Especially if it's early on in a dating experience. I want to be able to get to know her.

TMMP: What's your drink of choice on a date?
JB: My drink of choice on a date doesn't waiver from my drink of choice period. Jack Daniels. On the rocks. Cheers.

TMMP: Do you walk a lady to her door at the end of the night?
JB: That depends on the girl..Recently that's been seen as kind of corny and uncool. But you need to feel her out (not literally). It's all about reading your date.

TMMP: How many dates are appropriate to get invited inside?
JB: Well, I mean from a guy's point-of-view, it doesn't matter because we're going to accept that invite regardless. But I'd probably say 3 to stay on the classy side.

TMMP: You're old soul. Who's your favorite Hollywood romancer?
JB: Humphrey Bogart - tough and rugged. And I mean, if that guy could get Lauren Bacall, there's hope for the rest of us.

TMMP: If you could be any actor in Hollywood history, who would you be?
JB: Any one of them who lived past the age of 70. So thats basically Paul Newman or Jimmy Stewart.

TMMP: What's your favorite song to make-out to?
JB: Nothing says romance like swapping spit to the soothing melody of The Safety Dance. No... Ummm actually, anything with a theme of love or loving or making love is good. But I think that music is very important to making out. I was watching a movie with Brad Pitt (he was starring in it, not watching it with me) and he looked fine and dandy and all. Then he got the girl on a couch, the music snuck in, and everything he said was just magnified a thousand times over. So I mean if Brad Pitt needs music, us regular guys must be desperate for some.

TMMP: What is your single; "One Nighter" about exactly?
JB: It's about two people who just want the same thing. They find each other, get what they want, and go their separate ways. It's a song of healing and being healed. Ok, maybe not healed but ya kno at least getting some peroxide on the wound.

TMMP: Would you consider yourself a player or a hopeless romantic?
JB: Hopeless romantic. At the end of the day, no one wants to end up alone. And I'm hoping to find someone, someday.

TMMP: Has your music career changed the way women look at you?
JB. I wasn't a head turner to begin with, and now that I have a career ...I'm still not.

*JB Baretsky's debut single; "One Nighter" will be available for streaming next week. Check him out here:

- JB's Facebook Page
- JB's YouTube Channel

Trick or Tease: Why Do Females Choose Diaphanous Costumes on Halloween?

Excited for upcoming All Hallows' Eve festivities? Have you invested a great deal of thought and time into your costume? Perverted, hilarious, or obscene; you're entering that party to achieve notable attention....even if you look dumb. What about the ladies? It seems like all they have to do is dress in skimpy outfits and ta-da!

They can be anything they want, as long as the word "Sexy' sits in front of their description: Cop, Nurse, Schoolgirl, Vampire, or Disney character. As long as they wear short-shorts and a push-up bra, males applaud their valiant efforts to respect the holiday's purpose.

But why do females need to be sexy on a day that asks to disguise oneself from their everyday appearance? Could it be insecuities? Not only do they crave the complimentory attention at a party but a photo album's worth of memories on Facebook will let everyone know their creative spirit. Oh, lovely!

The ugly truth can quite possibly be that females are more judgemental than males. Remember the scene in Mean Girls, where Lohan dresses ghoulish and the others clothed scandalously? Lohan's character, not being fully Westernized, followed the plausible theme of Halloween. She was, in return, shunned and laughed at for it. I find that to be true in real life. I think females dress sexy in order to one-up and impress other females with their sexiness. And of course, attention from males only helps their case and makes other females jealous.

Maybe it's not about us, guys. Maybe it's a need females have to always feel pretty. Males are largely to blame - don't get us wrong. But females are quite nasty and brutal to each other. It's simply easier to blame males, though.