Pity Dates: Accept or Decline?

It's a Saturday night and your evening's options are low. Suddenly, you get a text message from a female that you're sort of into. She's cute and somewhat enjoyable, but more importantly -- she's available and wants to see you. You're not totally into her, or maybe you're not feeling whatsoever. But hey, that doesn't matter tonight. She's down to hang out and she's female company, so you an use her as practice.

Now, you can either think of her as an easy hook-up or just some chick to kick it with. The good thing about pity dates is you don't have to put too much effort into the evening. Most likely, she's already into you so you can  probably make shit happen without the need for alcohol (it's up to you though -- whether you it more than her).

Most of the time, you should try to conduct this date at either her place or yours. You're not trying to take her around town and spend a ton of money, so its important to remain economical to keep your loses down. Also, if you're only looking for physical pleasure, just cut to the chase. Spend some time inside, watch a movie, and let her cuddle on you. If it goes somewhere, that's great! If it doesn't, you didn't lose much for an evening that would've been spent alone in bed anyway.

I say accept it. She'll make for good dating practice.

(Make-Out) Song Of The Week - "The Best I Ever Had" by The Swellers

Who said you can't make-out to punk? Nobody, that's who! When you play this track during your sesh, you definitely won't forget the broad that you hooked-up with ....even if she wasn't the best you ever had. However, The Swellers will take you on a thrill ride of lip-locking. It might even bring you from the couch to the bed. Just don't start thinking about old flames and become melancholy. Treat this chick like she will be the best, even though she might not be. Man, I sound like such a sleazy dick.

If this song isn't for you, grow a pair of balls and play some pussy R&B ....or wait for next week's song. Whatever you do, don't get emotional, unless you want to.

Placeholders: The "In-Between" Girlfriends

If you don't know what a placeholder is, to put it simply, they're girls you're not that interested in having a romantic future with but they'll do for the time being. They're glorified seat warmers. They keep you from getting rusty in the dating game. They're typically not someone you're head-over-heels for. Usually lacking something (or many things). They're either decently attractive with a tolerable personality, or pretty hot with a dull personality. In other words, they don't completely fulfill you. But hey! You're lonely and she's willing, so what the hell, right?

It's important to make sure that you don't let a placeholder become too attached. Know your goal and stick to it. Are you doing it for the sex? Is she good arm-candy? Is she just someone cool to hang and talk with? Don't forget why she's a placeholder to you -- she's filling the void of your ex-girlfriend, until you meet someone that's worth your full romantic future (aka your next legit girlfriend)

The sticky part about dating placeholders is you can easily come off as a douche bag .....and let's be honest, you pretty much are. But that's why its necessary to never verbally express your interest in her .....because you're not. She's already giving you what you need. You don't love her, so never say it. Now isn't the time to express your feelings.

Now is the time to have fun and f*ck around a bit. Got it?!

Cheers.

Bumping Into Your Ex: How Do You Act?

Let's be honest ....it's never a comfortable situation when you either, coincidentally bump into your ex or know in advance that you'll have to see her at a social function. Part of you wants to see her just to subconsciously show her how well you're doing (aka "look at the prize you dumped!") and the other part of you wants to avoid her completely. Unfortunately, if you have mutual friends, the inevitability of seeing her again is likely. However, you can handle it the correct way and keep moving forward.

If you are forced to engage in conversation with her, remember to keep it brief. She doesn't deserve your time and hopefully, there are other surrounding friends to chat with other than her. Also, don't completely ignore her. It's childish and shows you're still affected by her. Don't be overly friendly either. All she deserves is a friendly wave from across the bar. Nothing more than that. Don't forget -- she isn't in your life anymore, so why would she need anything more than a wave?

Don't overcompensate. Don't try too hard to flirt with girls you see just for the sake of developing jealously. Most likely, she doesn't care anyway. If she shows up with a new guy, don't show any sign of emotion. She's in the past. Whoever she dates is none of your business. If she's already in the past, there's somewhere else better out there for you .......you probably hear that a lot but it's true.